Apr 22, 2018
“Should We Forgive Ourselves?”
   Last week we looked at whether it is right to judge others. We saw that it is okay for us to speak to someone who has hurt us who we need to forgive. Also to someone who has an area of their lives where they are hurting themselves or others. The issue is whether we are approaching them with a self-righteous, faultfinding, condemning attitude or with gentleness and kindness knowing that we have flaws too.    In our continuing series that parallels our small group study Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall, today we’re looking at his belief that along with receiving God’s forgiveness, we should forgive ourselves when we offend God or others.    Is forgiving oneself biblical? How can we be free from our lingering guilt over a sin against God or something that we have said or done to someone else?
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  • Apr 22, 2018“Should We Forgive Ourselves?”
    Apr 22, 2018
    “Should We Forgive Ourselves?”
       Last week we looked at whether it is right to judge others. We saw that it is okay for us to speak to someone who has hurt us who we need to forgive. Also to someone who has an area of their lives where they are hurting themselves or others. The issue is whether we are approaching them with a self-righteous, faultfinding, condemning attitude or with gentleness and kindness knowing that we have flaws too.    In our continuing series that parallels our small group study Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall, today we’re looking at his belief that along with receiving God’s forgiveness, we should forgive ourselves when we offend God or others.    Is forgiving oneself biblical? How can we be free from our lingering guilt over a sin against God or something that we have said or done to someone else?
  • Apr 15, 2018“To Judge or Not to Judge”
    Apr 15, 2018
    “To Judge or Not to Judge”
    As we continue with our series Total Forgiveness based on R.T. Kendall’s book, the theme of today’s message is whether it is okay to judge other people or not. We are looking at the information found in chapters 4 and 5 of the book entitled Playing God and When Are We Right to Judge?    We make judgments, we weigh the information and then make a decision, all the time. Some judgments are necessary and healthy: like a boss judging who should get a promotion, a person weighing the alternatives as to what car to buy, which college or trade school to attend, or which career path to take.    But there’s another kind of judgment that is not right. It is being overly critical, quick to blame, condemning, and judgmental towards another person. This is the kind of judging Jesus has in mind when He commands us “Do not judge or you too will be judged.”
  • Apr 8, 2018“Two Kinds of Forgiveness”
    Apr 8, 2018
    “Two Kinds of Forgiveness”
       After messages related to both Palm Sunday and Easter, this morning we are returning to our series that parallels our small group study on the book Total Forgiveness. We will begin with an overview of what Jesus is really teaching us in the Lord’s Prayer about what we are to include in our prayer times and then explain two verses Jesus adds at the end of the prayer that can be quite confusing.    In Matthew 6:14-15 Jesus adds that if we do not forgive others for their sins against us then God the Father will not forgive us for our sins against Him. But how can this be true since if we are a follower of Jesus the penalty we deserve from a holy God for our past, present, and future sins against Him has been paid in full by the death and resurrection of Christ and we are completely forgiven already? We must distinguish between two different kinds of forgiveness.   
  • Mar 18, 2018“Joseph’s Evidence of Total Forgiveness”
    Mar 18, 2018
    “Joseph’s Evidence of Total Forgiveness”
       In our last message in our series on R.T. Kendall’s book Total Forgiveness, we dealt with the topic of whether we need to forgive God. It was shared that our loving Heavenly Father doesn’t cause our difficulties. He doesn’t inflict disease on his children. The struggles of this life happen because of the free will that God gave to Adam and Eve, to others, and to us. We also have a spiritual enemy who wants to mess up our lives.    This morning we are dealing with the question “What are some of the evidences that we have forgiven someone for their offense against us?” We will look at Joseph’s example of how he treated his brothers who had sold him into slavery because of their jealousy and hatred towards him. Joseph never told anyone in Egypt how they had treated him because he wanted to protect their reputation. He treated them with kindness and love.
  • Mar 4, 2018“Do We Need to Forgive God?”
    Mar 4, 2018
    “Do We Need to Forgive God?”
       Overall, the book Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall our small groups have been studying is excellent. There is a lot of great teaching about what forgiveness is, what it isn’t, and how we can follow God’s command and forgive others the same way that God forgives us.    But there are a few statements the author makes that should be challenged. They have to do with his view of God’s sovereignty, or God being in control, and the problem of evil and suffering in the world and in our personal lives.    He then talks about our need to “forgive God”. But what we believe about our need to forgive God or not will be based on how we define forgiveness.    This morning we will look at both the biblical and pop psychology view of what forgiveness is, is it possible for God to do wrong, and why bad things happen to even God’s people.
  • Feb 25, 2018“Mercy and Forgiveness”
    Feb 25, 2018
    “Mercy and Forgiveness”
       Last week we addressed four promises of forgiveness that God makes to us that He also desires that we make to others: I will not dwell on this incident. I will not bring this up again and use it against you. I will not talk to others about this incident. And I will not let this incident hinder our personal relationship. When we forgive in this matter, we are forgiving others the same way that God forgives us.    This morning we are looking at the connection between mercy and forgiveness. God’s mercy is His not giving us the judgment we deserve for sins against him.    How willing are we to extend mercy to others and not give them the judgment they deserve for their sins against us? How willing are we to forgive?
  • Feb 18, 2018“Four Promises of Forgiveness”
    Feb 18, 2018
    “Four Promises of Forgiveness”
        In our message series entitled Total Forgiveness, last week we saw that God forgives us instantly, completely, repeatedly and freely. But then he also commands us to forgive others the same way that He forgives us.    The same undeserved gift of forgiveness God gives to us, we are to give to others.  But after we have forgiven the person, there are some things that we can do that will continue to heal the hurt or wound that resulted from what the person said or did to us.        This morning we will see that forgiveness may be described as a decision to make four promises. They are promises God makes to us and our choosing to live by them will make us and our relationships a lot more emotionally and spiritually healthy.
  • Feb 11, 2018“God’s Loving Forgiveness”
    Feb 11, 2018
    “God’s Loving Forgiveness”
       For the follower of Christ, there is tremendous joy in knowing that we are instantly, completely, repeatedly and freely forgiven of all the guilt and condemnation for all of our sins against God as a gift of God’s grace through what Christ has done on the cross for us. When from the heart we confess our sins to the Lord, He does not consider us guilty of that transgression any longer.    If we struggle with guilt, with not feeling forgiven after confessing something to the Lord, it is important that we learn not to live by our feelings but by what God has told us in His Word, the Bible, is true. But the way that God lovingly forgives us is the same way that He desires for us to then lovingly forgive others. Love keeps no records of wrongs.
  • Feb 4, 2018“Responding to Anger”
    Feb 4, 2018
    “Responding to Anger”
       Last week we looked at the connection between unforgiveness and anger. We addressed both unhealthy and healthy ways to deal with our anger and saw that unless we learn to deal with our anger, forgiving others for their hurtful words or actions will be extremely difficult. And it is in choosing to forgive the person, whenever the hurt and pain resurfaces, that we will find our anger and bitterness diminishing.    This is the third message in our series entitled Total Forgiveness. As a follow-up to last Sunday’s message, we will address how responding in healthy ways to another person when they are angry with us can help to diffuse their anger and make it easier for them to forgive us so they are able to let go of any bitterness or resentment; so it doesn’t become a wedge in our relationship with them.
  • Jan 28, 2018“Forgiveness and Anger”
    Jan 28, 2018
    “Forgiveness and Anger”
       This is the second message in our series entitled Total Forgiveness loosely paralleling our small group study by the same name. This morning we are dealing with forgiveness and anger.    Is it okay for followers of Christ to get angry? When we do get angry, there are unhealthy and healthy ways to deal with our anger.    One of the healthy ways is identifying the source of our anger. This is because anger is a secondary emotion. It is always a symptom of, and a response to, something else.        Without processing and dealing with our anger in a healthy way it will be extremely difficult to be in a good state of mind to forgive others for what they said or did and the resulting hurt it caused us.